EIGHTEEN - HAPPY 65th BIRTHDAY to ME!

65 years old and still can't find my mom LENORA JENNINGS

My 65th Birthday wish was to find my mother.

It was a grand mission, I wanted to find my mom  and my brother before my 65th Birthday. Because I didn't even know my mom's or my brothers birth dates, I realized it would be difficult. Spending Hours researching and taking an ANCESTRY.CA DNA TEST was the first real step in the right direction.  Sometimes though you just have to admit you failed....but of course that does Not mean you can give up. Even though I had set the deadline to find them by my 65th birthday, maybe I set my bar too high. There were times I actually thought I would make it, but I don't think I am any closer than I was a few months ago. On the plus side there are MANY  things I was able to accomplish in my 18 months of searching.

 What I found so far is amazing

The only fact I knew "for sure" (which ended up NOT being true) was my mothers name "LENORA JENNINGS" I found my mom's Birth date and birth place after searching custody papers at the court house. It was surreal reading her birth date for the first time in my life @ age 64.

I was also able to track down my mom's parents and siblings, though they have all passed away

What a wonderful accomplishment to have found and met my Maternal cousins whom I didn't even know about! I was pleasantly surprised to feel such a profound connection to them.

BEST of all I found and met my BROTHER STEVE - and we speak every week, rain or shine!

The search for LENORA ANNE JENNINGS continues

Having missed my dead line for finding my mother is a tad defeating....but also lights the fire under me. I feel so close, yet so far from the truth. I keep reassuring my brother Steve, that I WILL find our mother, or at least her resting place. Steve has also been helping. He obtained his Adoption papers with non-identifying information about our mother from the Children's Aid Society in Toronto. It didn't give us much but he has also requested non-identifying information on his Bio-dad. We are crossing our fingers that there is something in those files. I think another trip to the Court house for more files on mom might help....and of course another visit to the "Church Of Latter Day Saints" where they have people who will help you with your search.

Going to set another dead line to accomplish this - lets try for September 19 2019 - Brother STEVE's 69th Birthday! Wish US LUCK!!!!

NINETEEN - A new hint in an old document - Divorce decree

PARENTS Divorce Decree 1979

Original decree tells more than Certificate

It's amazing - no matter How many times you tell yourself to look in Every corner...you miss something! My frustration at not finding anything new sometimes gets the best of me. It was one of those days that I decided to write another post on the Face Book "searching for bio family" I explained that even though I have checked, double checked, triple checked the SSN listings, I can't find anything that will tell me if my mom "LENORA ANNE JENNINGS" is alive or dead.  There was a flurry of questions from people who had ideas on finding new information. I had posted the File # on my parents Divorce Decree, and the fact that the Certificate was missing information. When I called the courthouse, I was told they didn't have any more info...so I dropped it.

Well this Lady double checked the certificate and then sent me a private message with something new...."Some one" had requested a copy of the divorce decree in the last 10 years....WHAT?!?!?!

WHAT can this possibly mean???

YES I realize that maybe there is a Simple explanation....but it could also open up the Real possibility that in 2011, my mom was alive!!! My dad had moved on with his life and suffering from Parkinson's disease. I can't imagine that he would have even been capable of asking for a copy, and of course to what end would he need a copy. BUT "IF" mom wanted to remarry, or prove she was divorced, then it is Possible that my mother Could have requested a copy. The thought is MIND boggling to me, but now I need to prove it.  Gotta get myself focused again 

Feels like I'm back to square one!

So 2 days searching for the files, and I am unable to see the latest date of the request. I ordered the original divorce document because I already had the Divorce Certificate, which was missing info.

Unfortunetly the Court house won't mail to Canada....good thing I have my newly found Maternal cousins in the U.S. I have been sitting here looking at the document for a few days now, hoping a light will go off, but so far NOT!  My cousin Michael offered to ask some legal friends what my next step should be. I'm desperate enough to post again on Face Book "Bio family search page" Maybe someone has a new idea on how to find out WHO requested a copy of the divorce.  

I spoke to my Brother Steve today and vowed I will continue the search for our mom.  I had hoped to find her before I turned 65, but I missed my deadline. I turned 65 years old 2 weeks ago. Yep I gotta get focused, become obsessed again and hope Somewhere, Someone knows where I can find her!
I'm going to KEEP LOOKING